The starting point to feeling safe

When we don’t feel safe, a normal reaction is for us to avoid the ‘thing’, be that an event, activity or person, to protect ourselves.

We construct barriers and walls to keep out the threat. If avoiding and distancing doesn’t work then we retreat further building higher walls between us and the external source of the threat. For some, the walls become so high, and you retreat so much that your previously constructed walls to keep you safe become your prison.

Yes, you keep out the unwanted thing, but inevitably you also block out the positive opportunities for connection, joy, fun, growth and love.

In order to start to move forward with courage, we need to have some element of feeling safe.